I’m Lisa Olivera. I am so many things, some amongst them a therapist, a writer and author, a mother, an adoptee, a wife, a photographer, an enneagram 4, an INFJ, a lover of existential waters & thrifting & deep conversations, and a lifelong learner. I thrive with ample alone time and connection to nature. I live for small-town bookshops, good puns, long drives on the backroads, walks in the forest, and writing in cafés. I’m learning how to build new friendships as an adult, to stick to morning pages, to embrace my neurodivergence, to remember the systems at play in how I experience the world, to lighten up whenever possible, to stay close to the pulse of aliveness. I’m devoted to practicing; I see everything as practice.
Much of my childhood was spent feeling like I didn’t belong, always peering into aliveness from what felt like the outside. Growing up as a foundling in an adopted family made things like connection, love, trust, and worthiness complicated; this complication led to an intimate relationship with pain, grief, and loneliness, one I am still finding my way beyond. This intimacy with darkness is what cultivated a deep desire to be of service, to walk alongside others finding their way beyond their own aches, to sit with others as they learn how to move toward joy and connection and presence, even amid what hurts. I am wildly humbled by this act, by this gift.
I seek to bring authenticity, warmth, and curiosity into all I do. My personal work feels deeply woven with my work in the world, each mirroring one another and amplifying what matters most. I am forever in absolute awe of the human experience, of how most of us share similar longings, of what is possible when we move beyond the narrow visions we often hold of ourselves.
I am devoted to walking alongside others as they embark on their own deepening sense of self, other, and the world. It is through my own path that I understand the necessity of not doing it alone, of being witnessed and held in our process, and of staying close to the body, senses, and earth as we traverse inward and outward.
I live with my husband, daughter, and our two cats in Sonoma County, California, on the unceded ancestral lands of the Coast Miwok people.
I humbly walk alongside humans on their own path
& practice of self-inquiry, remembrance, and growth.
I write a weekly-ish newsletter, books, and resources for cultivating aliveness and staying human.
I facilitate workshops, writing circles, and offerings centered on staying close to self, community, and the earth.
I believe in the profound gifts and wisdom of nature, seasons, and the earth.
I believe the heart holds knowledge and insight our minds often can’t grasp.
I believe we each came here inherently whole, worthy, and enough.
I believe the systems we live in disrupt our inherent sense of connection to self and other.
I believe relationships are the crux of healing, of nourishment, and of life.
I believe embracing the aches of being human is more healing than trying to fix it all.
I believe in the art of creativity, self-expression, laughter and play.
I believe it is never too late to begin again, over and over.
I believe in the strength of softness, vulnerability, and tenderness.
I believe in the necessity of depathologizing our pain, our hurt, and our grief.
I believe feeling is a portal to connection and aliveness.
I believe presence can only be accessed through the body.
I believe in practice, in devotion, in willingness.
Compassion
Curiosity
Creativity
Connection
Courage
Presence
Equity
Liberation
Carl Rogers, Francis Weller, bell hooks, adrienne maree brown, Mary Oliver, Prentis Hemphill, Thich Nhat Hanh, Joanna Macy, Ron Kurtz, Audre Lorde, John O'Donohue, Tara Brach, Annie Dillard, Pema Chödrön, Kristin Neff, Jennifer Mullan, Elizabeth Gilbert, Richard Schwartz, Toko-pa Turner,
Ram Dass, Robin Wall Kimmerer, Staci K. Haines, Tricia Hersey, Carl Jung, Lama Rod Owens, Andrea Gibson, Natalie Goldberg, Jack Kornfield, Bill Plotkin, Kim Krans, the redwood forest, the flying geese, the ocean's waters, the rocks, the moon, and all that wilts & blooms.
Lisa Olivera is a writer, therapist, and creative who shares work centered around radical acceptance, cultivating compassion, and integrating our stories and full humanity. She holds a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from Dominican University, where she received the Dr. Robert Schukraft award for Inspirational Leadership. She has worked in schools, community-based mental health, and private practice, all of which inform her lens of the world. Her work has been featured in many publications including The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Good Morning America, The Guardian, and The Huffington Post. Lisa writes the popular weekly newsletter, Human Stuff, on Substack, teaches writing workshops, and is working on her second book. Her first book, Already Enough, was published by Simon and Schuster in early 2022. She lives with her husband, daughter, and two cats in Northern California.